Why do we always ask “why” when difficulty strikes? I’m not talking about after we’ve had time to think about it, pray about it, and have others comfort and encourage us through it. I’m talking about the initial gut response. When something difficult happens our first thought, more often than not is “why?” Why me, why now, why this? Strange it seems, particularly once you’ve gone through the trial that you even asked why to begin with. Then again, I guess sometimes all you’re left with is why with no further response from the Lord. Some things, we’ll never know and were never meant to know. Somethings He makes clear to us knowing that we are flesh, weaklings.
But where does that gut response of “why” come from? Most likely it comes from the expectation that we deserve only good in life. Certainly for the unbeliever there is often that expectation. That they are inherently good and that they deserve only good to come. Even that god, their god, is a god of only good things and that disaster and calamity should never befall them. But that is not the God of the Bible. That is certainly not the Father of Jesus Christ nor the Father of His Church.
So what about believers? When disaster and calamity strikes and we respond with “why” what are we saying? I think that we too are saying “why me, why this, why now?” And I think that we are often responding with that thinking that we too deserve only good things. Is that wrong of us to assume? We are children of the King. Children in the Beloved. We are the Lord’s and we expect that He will work out everything for our good and His glory in the end…right? And what about those who are more charismatic among us who assert that there aren’t really any difficulties that should befall us and that we shouldn’t even be physically sick (I recently had someone who was of the charismatic persuasion say to me – with reference to Isaiah 53 – that Jesus’ bore our sicknesses and that through His death we are healed and so my wife’s physical distress would be healed if we believed that and claimed it). What about that? There is certainly much to be said for their faith, though their interpretation of scripture is somewhat lacking. And there is much to be said about their fervency for prayer and trusting that God would move because they pray in faith.
But what else are they saying? In a sense, and I don’t believe that everyone of them is saying this nor do I believe that every other believer thinks this way but for the most part it is probably true, in a sense they are saying that God should give us what we ask for no matter what it is and that we shouldn’t ever experience physical or any other distress because God never meant it to be that way for us. That is so close to the truth its almost difficult to combat. Certainly God created us “good” and for “good.” However things did not remain that way. And there is really no promise in scripture that now things ought to be completely good and at ease for us as believers. Quite the opposite. I’ve been reading through I Peter and he assumes that difficulty will arise and that this difficulty is a part of what it means to walk in Christ’s footsteps. Certainly Paul’s life – who was a man of faith and a man of prayer – was full of difficulty. Are we to assume that he was in some sort of sin or that he didn’t have enough faith or that he didn’t pray earnestly enough and that this is why his life was marked with difficulty both physical and otherwise? Certainly not. And ultimately we have Jesus who said “in this life you will have tribulation but to be of good cheer because I have overcome the world.” And His life, what was it if not marked by “grief and sorrow.” Are we, His disciples, to live a life greater than He, our Master?
I guess in the final analysis we have to conclude that what is “our good” that God is working all things toward, is ultimately not up to us. In other words we can’t and won’t know what the “good” is that God is working all things toward. We don’t really know what good thing we need and we don’t really know how best to work out situations and circumstances in our lives in order to reach that good. But we can rest in knowing that God knows. And we can rest in knowing that God is the One who is and always will be in control and that He is at work to work all things together for our good, whether they are “good” or “bad” according to our perspective.
In the end, we must assert with Job that it would be foolish to only be willing to accept good from God and not adversity. Accepting the good and adversity in this respect is more of an attitude adjustment. There is not really anything that we can do to accept or reject adversity from God. But the acceptance, as we saw – at least from the first and last couple of chapters of Job – has more to do with an attitude that doesn’t question God’s motives but which accepts that He is in control, that His plans and purposes are higher than we can conceive and that whether He gives or takes, He is and always shall be blessed.